Change is the only constant
Amidst all the wedding shenanigans when two of my closest friends are getting hitched, I got to have ‘the talk’ with them. There’s something beautiful and haunting about the moment when the closest people to you reveal the intricacies of life and love. Well, for me ‘the talk’ certainly did stimulate some thoughts. One thing I realized from my conversation with one of the brides-to-be is that the whole noise around getting married has a very simple answer. We all worry about whether the love and the equation that we have with our partner will stay the same or not. In fact, the real worry must be what if it stays the same. Confused? Let me explain. We all evolve as people throughout our lives. We encounter different life circumstances which changes our course of life for better or for worse. So, when everything is constantly changing and evolving, your equation with your partner also needs to change. It should evolve as you both grow as a person and it should change and mold itself according to your life circumstances.
To understand things clearly think if your wish comes true. Your love stays and your equation stays the same. It sounds romantic but may turn out to be exactly opposite. Imagine everything is changing and there’s just one thing that stays constant, absolutely constant. Wouldn’t it feel like you are stuck somewhere? Somewhere in the past or with something stale?
I guess it’s not about whether it will change, the real question is how it will change. Your relationship dynamic must change to accommodate the person you both will become and the life circumstances that you will encounter. If the change is positive, your relationship will age and grow like a fine wine.
I guess, what they say about change holds true for our relationships as well — Change is the only constant. So, don’t be afraid of change, just work towards a positive change and have your happily ever after!
Originally published at http://komal868.wordpress.com on November 9, 2018.
